Boosting Self-confidence: A short guide for the learners

We are not born with boundless self-confidence. If someone seems to be unbelievably self-confident, it is because he or she has dealt with it for a long time with a conscious mind. So it is important to know how to deal with ‘confidence’ so that the challenge of life does not deflate it. 

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You might know, over diet and poor diet both are injurious to our health. The presence of confidence in you also works in the same way as the ‘balanced diet’. No, do not get me wrong, you do not find ‘confidence’ in the balanced diet! What I mean is if there is a lack of confidence, you have got a problem and if you have over-confidence, it is more than a problem. In one hand, over-confidence makes you arrogant like ‘I can do everything!’ On the other hand, less or no confidence stops you literally in everywhere and grows ‘can’t do’ attitude. Both situations are detrimental to your well-being. So you need to balance it and it is challenging but not impossible to achieve. Balancing and growing self-confidence is just a mental exercise where your mind is trained to believe fairly and positively about your caliber. When I say ‘just’, do not take it that much lightly because it requires a substantial amount of your attention and intention.

The very first requirement is you need to believe in yourself. No one is coming to make you believe in yourself and even if others believe on you, it is not going to help you in any way. So you yourself have to take the mental initiative to build such trust on yourself. After having had such positive belief in yourself, you start working on the project or mission you like to achieve. You really need to put your all-out efforts with utmost dedication in a planned way. Failures will come, embrace it and take the learnings out of it. Challenges will chase you relentlessly! Face those challenges with a positive attitude rather than feeling anxious about it. If necessary, you might change your courses of actions to better fit your journey with your goal. Throughout the journey, be open, flexible and positive to take feedback. But never stop your good works and never break your good intention. That momentum will surely bring something fruitful for you and your mission.

Always remember, great things are done by a series of small things. Small achievements would bring back your confidence and will make you even more confident. 

Do this exercise for every mission you take- be it public speaking, be it giving a presentation, be it reading challenge, be it talking with an unknown person- no matter how small the mission is. Just keep going! Ultimately, these consecutive exercises will make your heart bigger with full of confidence and take even greater challenges.

Good luck with your endeavor!

The article was published on The Daily Sun on Feb 20, 2020